Dementia care

Sticking Together

12 Nov, 2016

Me loving him, sometimes, it isn’t enough.

When my dad doesn’t know who I am, I know he loves, and he knows I love him.

When I can’t get there to see him, does he know I love him? Does he know I think about him, wondering how his day has been?

It might be that a loving community is the next best thing to singular love.

There are 10 people living on my dad’s floor.  Every visit, I seek to spend time with three others who also live on his floor. It’s not because I have to, it’s because I know them, and I know their families.  I know what it means to their daughters, sons, nephews, and nieces that someone has visited and chatted and helped straighten their sweater on the back of a chair.

This act of visiting others is not completely altruistic-

I personally get so much out of my visits with these fabulous women.

And, it is intentional time spent to also help my peers,  who may not be able to visit this week.  I know they do the same when they visit. The community of “Bryan’s visitors”, is now four times higher than it would have been if he lived anywhere else.

Knowing who lives on my dad’s floor, and who those family members are, hasn’t been an accident.  The place my dad lives hosts all family meetings every quarter, and through these meetings, we all know and care about one another.  At the very least, we are in the same boat, and support one another through this difficult, progressive disease.

For anyone seeking a new home for someone you love, consider the impact of community:

Who else lives at the new home and on the floor you’re considering?

Do families interact with one another through the home?

How open is the home to sharing your name with other families?

How often do people visit?  Take a look at the log book (if you can).


Thanks to our Friend  Carolyn Duckworth with Care2Care.

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7 Common Symptons of Lewy Body Dementia

Lewy Body

• Movement problems

– Falls

• Visual Hallucinations

• Fine motor problems

– hands & swallowing

• Episodes of rigidity & syncopy

• Nightmares

• Fluctuations in abilities

• Drug responses can be extreme & strange

Teepa Snow, MS, OTR/L, FAOTA

 Dementia Care & Training Specialist, Eastern NC Chapter, Alzheimer’s Association

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Edging the Danger Zone // The ferocious dog

I talk to my mom a lot on the phone. Since I live in San Francisco and she is in San Diego its common for us to be on the phone for hours. I’ve noticed she likes to call me when she’s running errands alone. I think it makes her feel less alone. It’s comical sometimes becasue I get to hear her verbally run through her tasks and am able to estimate how often she strays from what she’s supposed to be doing.

Last week she picked up a dog that she was watching for a friend as one of her tasks. She then went to CVS to pick up some medications. On her way out of the store we are the phone and I hear,

“Oh no I forgot to roll up my window, Nadia what if someone stole my car! I need to make sure I lock up app–Ohhhh, OH MY GOODNESS! Theres a dog in my car! How did that get in there. Oh thats a big dog!”

Bark Bark  I hear to loud barks in from the phone.

I was laughing and shaking my head and the sound of her forgetfulness,” Mom, mom, calm down its ok! You just picked up the dog from Ally Parker’s house remember?” I muffled some more chuckles.

“I do not remember.” My mom said stubbornly.

“You are going to watch her for a few days with Dad, her name is Lana.” I tell her.

This is hilarious to me becasue my mom is a huge prankster and putting a dog secretively in one of my siblings car would totally be up her ally of pranking and confusion. The fact that she basically pranked herself cracks me up.

“Its not funny Nadia, I really forgot that I had her in here, what if I left for a long time?” She scolds me. I can hear her putting the stuff in the car.

“She wasn’t in there too long its been like 20 minutes since you got to CVS. You totally pranked yourself! Can you imagine how funny that would have been if you really did forget to roll up your window and then you found a puppy in your can when you came back?”

“I would not know what to do!” she laughs at herself finally, “Oh I’d be really confused.”

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Lets Laugh about it!

Laughter Yoga has a clinically comparable affect to antipsychotic medications with none of the side harming side affects. Its also suitable for everyone in all conditions. Just like any vigorous exercise you build a stamina for it witch deepens your breathing and oxygenates your mind and internal organs.

Laughter Yoga was studied by Jean-Paul Bell, creative director at the Arts Health Institute in Avalon Beach, New South Wales, and co-founder of the Australia-wide hospital-based “Clown Doctor” program. He and Australian colleagues (at the Dementia Collaborative Research Centre, the University of New SouthWales and Prince of Wales Hospital, among others) recently presented the findings at the National Dementia Research Forum, in Sydney.

To read more about this study click Here.

Youtube & Article Link: Get the Giggles…

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